Queen Kate - Remaking of Lazy Katie, Duchess Dolittle, & GD

I think much of her 'laziness' is her inability to adapt and cope and thrive in a way of life that is foreign to her personality.

Kate was raised by her middle class way of life to get all she can, focus on herself/her well being/her lifestyle and her real upbringing was based on finding a man and being taken care of for life and making no further effort. I am not saying this a pejorative, I am saying this as a fact of how she is.

In the film Titanic, you see the third class partying wildly while the upper class is more staid.

What the film does not explain is that while traveling the upper class viewed themselves as public figures and as a result, were expected to behave far more staid, dignified, and engage in as much politesse as possible. The upper class was used to partying and could be more reserved while traveling since after traveling, there would be more partying and more dinners and more dances and so on and so forth.

With the third class, they partied like crazy because travel was one of the few times they had left until it was time for them to get back to being overworked, underpaid, and treated like dirt instead of like people who mattered. It was the same ship, but different ultimate destinations.

When William entered uni it was likely accepted that William would live and dress sparingly since eh did after all have palatial estates and limitless money to go back to and his role as a public figure was mapped out and he was someone who was basically going to always be looked after. He had a huge loving family and he had an adoring public that made him the ENVY of all politicians out there and he had limitless money to do what he wanted, but the expectation was that he would start engaging in the same self discipline that was expected, that he would forgo all that jet setting and settle in Scotland and make much of his time there.

With Kate, she was going to go after William, but like most of her class, she was supposed to go to uni and get a degree and prep for a profession. She had nothing in her life mapped out and she had nothing prepared for her. Her parents were never going to support her throughout her twenties if William were not in the mix and there is no way that she would end up coddled like she was. Kate was also likely going to try to land a personable young man who would be stupid enough to marry and provide for her. She was not going with her life mapped out and a position prepared for her. Kate partied hard in uni because she and her types know that taxpayer supported uni is only temporary and they are supposed to prep for a life of earning and working her way through and whether she likes it or not. She was not supposed to be mooching around and playing at how she would be a lady of privileged leisure in the future.

Same school, but ultimately different destinations. It's not like either really were on the same wavelength, not just lifestyle. I'm not talking about money or even privilege by birth, I am talking about how they were going to be living their lives if neither had met the other.

Kate living the life she is is natural to her; to Kate, forgoing favors and opportunities is something that is alien to her because she is never sure of anything at all. She was not raised in a way of life/living that provided concrete surety and security. Like Elton John who fell apart at Gianni Versace's funeral despite the fact that he should have kept himself together and provided comfort to the Versace family. Or how Elton John has a bizarre 'friendship' with Prince Harry despite the fact that he has a son of his own that should take main focus and not Harry who is not and would not be an age appropriate 'friend' when Harry was an adolescent. Kate was not raised with certain types of self control and she was likely drilled by her parents (like all her ilk) about the importance of Hollywood-style socialization; one class or below is to be avoided and one class or above is to be cultivated. We all know this, but people don't really voice it.

If William had stuck to the values of forgoing privileges that will always be available anyway, he would have either dropped Kate before graduation and kept her out or he would not have taken up with her anyway. His biggest flaw and worst choice was to see what he believed, not the other way around and he made the bad choice to let Kate use him to go jet setting and such when he was not supposed to be doing this. When he let Kate move in with him (mooch in with him actually) she ended up allegedly whooping it up despite the fact that she was not paying bills or rent or anything and I remember reading that William had to go to the police station to do his homework because Kate and her 'friends' were just partying all the time and he never got any peace. Kate was not raised to handle privileges responsibly, she was raised to get all she could out of every good moment since it likely wouldn't last. Yet, William was exposed to people who did not think or see tings the way he did and therefore he got mixed up, confused, and manipulated.

So I don't judge Kate for being lazy, I judge her for being a mooch. Thing is, that I work for myself and most people have almost always viewed me as mooching and not making enough (like getting a 'normal job' and taking out loans) of myself/my time and I sincerely think that royal stuff is a lot more administrative than demonstrative, so I can't judge for that. I judge Kate for freeloading off her boyfriend, then husband, then the BRF and contributing nothing. She is mooching and still in the mindset of being a taker and acting like all this will end (likely, but still) so she sees no point to making any kind of contribution. She really, really is someone who is basically leeching and she sees herself as 'better' than people who are genuinely disabled and living off of SSDI and stigmatized. I do not think she is willing to face that she is now approaching a point in her marriage where her husband is not just a village joke, but an international laughing stock and she was instrumental in that development even if it isn't 'nice' to face or deal with. When he wakes up, he will take a good hard look at his life and Kate will get the brunt of his wrath.