Days of Wine & Boujis - Waity Katie/Stalker Kate Chronicles

I find it embittering that a lot of people thought (and still think) that it's okay for Kate to leech around, cause trouble, and do nothing with her education just because she was raised in a solidly middle class home. I also think it is embittering that Kate didn't get called names that suited her more because of her freeloading because she came from a solidly middle class home. As if being middle class is making a person exempt from being called out on bad behavior and how Kate was entitled to a ring just because she stuck on him for so many years. As if being working class or poor (but respectable) is free license to mistreat someone. Throughout the entire courtship, Kate and her family kept trying to just march into the lives of the aristocrats, as if the Midds had a right to push aristos to marry before they were ready and even if aristos in question didn't even want to marry a Middleton. Kate really was shocked that William did a normal thing, breaking up with her since she wasn't going anywhere and really did not belong in his non-uni life.

It did become obvious that Kate was unwilling to grow adjust and adapt to William's more cosmopolitan way of life and she wouldn't accept that he had responsibilities that had to be fulfilled before making the lifetime commitment of marriage. He was not ready for that and that does not mean he is a bad person, just aware that he himself is too immature for that kind of commitment (as are most young men). Kate refused to accept that he didn't owe her a lifestyle or security and she was determined to make herself the responsibility of the palace and it is clear that the palace didn't want her on their hands. It is also clear that Kate felt she had a right to some kind of surety and really, she wasn't entitled to that either. Throughout her entire twenties she did not one thing that would show she was growing and maturing and becoming seasoned in taking on responsibilities that are basic adult responsibilities, much less a public role as a royal consort. She did nothing to show she would bring SOMETHING to a marriage, not just a well ridden body and full head of hair. I also think she reached a point where she was literally kind of going insane. A lot of her actions were not that of a stable personality.

I also think Kate herself was a problem. If the palace was looking askance, it was likely because Kate was distracting William from his mapped out responsibilities so William could get her into another stupid club or resort.

The minute Gary was outed as trafficking in drugs and young girls, that should have resulted in the termination of the relationship. I also sincerely think that there's no point to pretending that William can undo the two decades of his young adulthood that he squandered. Really, he can't undo it. He is now a fixture in that family.

I also hold the view that Kate thought William could help her escape her family, her shady family's situation, but it just dragged him into hers. I sincerely wonder what it is about Kate that inspired William to marry and rescue her and as a result, make things worse for himself. William is now enmeshed in a family situation that is all around bad bad bad and there is no way out for him. There is no way that anyone is going to be able to rescue him from this mess except himself.

I know it's sad, but Kate should have been dumped and William should have instructed a palace official to tell Kate to back off and stop trying to use William and to stop trying to pressurize him to marry her and take care of her. She had no right to distract him from his responsibilities. I think Kate was kind of a troubled woman who thought that William was a 'way out,' but regrettably ended up dragging William into her bad situation and toxic family mess.

Kate would have been left behind, but that is sad and that is tragic, but she had a responsibility to pull herself out of that mess. if she hadn't, that is life. What kind of hurts in a sense that I empathize, is how she was always at that lower level and threw away opportunities to get herself at a better level and as a result, get taken to better places.

No one can convince me that Kate was content with Boujis when she knew that there were balls, parties, receptions at the palace and the classiest place she went was in that dumb boxing ball and that was basically a couple of Toffs punching each other and everyone drank from plastic cups. There were theaters, dance halls, museums, and aristocratic dinner parties and Kate went to none of them. After a few years William should have been taking her to nicer places, but he kept her firmly in the clubbing/jet set resort settings and I am certain it galled her like crazy. She had no real new level.

Then during 2007 she ran around with all those guys when after the breakup, she should have been working on finding a real job and quietly living down her breakup.